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To those who answered my question, thanks alot for the comments. But just one thing bout that. im too shy to say something if i get a sign from (which is good), dont know what to do with that....

Originally Posted by .PinBall

To those who answered my question, thanks alot for the comments. But just one thing bout that. im too shy to say something if i get a sign from (which is good), dont know what to do with that....

It's normal Pinny. You're still young (18, right?), and from what I think/know, you still don't have a LOT of experience in these things. There is those two things we call "self-confidence" and "self-esteem". You should try to read about them on Internet or in books because it really helps. People who are shy are shy because they simply don't have the confidence to do the first move. They either don't know what to say, either think that they aren't good-looking enough to please the female.

But keep in mind that in life, you don't have to be named Brad Pitt to get all the girls. Over here in Canada, and I'm pretty sure it's the same everywhere in this world, there are A LOT of hot girls who have "not-so-good-looking" boyfriends (to not say ugly..). Why's that ? Because these guys are not scared of anything.. they try. If it doesn't work, they'll try something else. I think you get my point.

So first, what you need to do is inform yourself about "self-confidence" and "self-esteem" (there are a lot of books/web site when you can read about those two things and make exercices, if you want to). Then you will realise that the hardest part is to say the first word and to accept yourself how you are (from what I know, you are far from being ugly ). After you did these two things, everything should go your way and maybe you'll get her number..
I don't really have time to look for websites but, just type these two things in google and you should find a few reliable web sites. So good luck Pinny ! But hey, keep it mind that you don't born a shy person: It's something you can work on and make it go away.

Originally Posted by TuNice

I have trouble sometimes. I guess you could say "closing the deal". I either wait too long to ask the girl out and she is scared of ruining the friendship that we built. Or I rush in too quickly.

i have the same poblem....

Originally Posted by skeRer

It's normal Pinny. You're still young (18, right?), and from what I think/know, you still don't have a LOT of experience in these things. There is those two things we call "self-confidence" and "self-esteem". You should try to read about them on Internet or in books because it really helps. People who are shy are shy because they simply don't have the confidence to do the first move. They either don't know what to say, either think that they aren't good-looking enough to please the female.

But keep in mind that in life, you don't have to be named Brad Pitt to get all the girls. Over here in Canada, and I'm pretty sure it's the same everywhere in this world, there are A LOT of hot girls who have "not-so-good-looking" boyfriends (to not say ugly..). Why's that ? Because these guys are not scared of anything.. they try. If it doesn't work, they'll try something else. I think you get my point.

So first, what you need to do is inform yourself about "self-confidence" and "self-esteem" (there are a lot of books/web site when you can read about those two things and make exercices, if you want to). Then you will realise that the hardest part is to say the first word and to accept yourself how you are (from what I know, you are far from being ugly ). After you did these two things, everything should go your way and maybe you'll get her number..
I don't really have time to look for websites but, just type these two things in google and you should find a few reliable web sites. So good luck Pinny ! But hey, keep it mind that you don't born a shy person: It's something you can work on and make it go away.

im 19 .. But im not THAT shy, just that i dont know if i can take the, damn whats that thing were a girl just ignore u when u talk to them? happens to me when im at the pub. im not sure if i can take that, like something inside me dies, i feel terrible after that (like i cant get anyone).
The easiet way for me to get in contact with girls is that to talk to them on msn (everyone uses it) and just talk to them there ya know.
But i guess ill feel better when i get this expirence talkin to girls downtown or on the mall.

And Tibs.. thanks for takin the time with me

Originally Posted by NivAue the BK

i have the same poblem....

As in, you meet a girl, you start flirting, vice versa, and you don't know when to ask her out?

Well, what you need to do is talk to her about it. Make she would want a BF, some girls flirt around, but don't want a relationship at the time. If she wants a BF, then go ahead and try. It's better to be rejected and know you tried, then having that regret knowing you didn't do anything. Like I've said before, communication is key. Also, if she is scared of ruining the friendship, she may not be what you want. You need friendship before you can have a relationship. You gotta take risks. Just talk to her, see if she would like a relationship, you know, hint around a bit. Some girls like it, some don't. Some want you to straight out say "Wanna be my GF?" So, good luck man.

Originally Posted by .PinBall

im 19 .. But im not THAT shy, just that i dont know if i can take the, damn whats that thing were a girl just ignore u when u talk to them? happens to me when im at the pub. im not sure if i can take that, like something inside me dies, i feel terrible after that (like i cant get anyone).
The easiet way for me to get in contact with girls is that to talk to them on msn (everyone uses it) and just talk to them there ya know.
But i guess ill feel better when i get this expirence talkin to girls downtown or on the mall.

And Tibs.. thanks for takin the time with me

Most girls not 100% ignore you, they will give u a sign if they would like to continue the conversation or if you should just walk away. That's with MOST some girls think they are higher than others, don't bother with that type of relationship. It's better to get rejected than to regret not doing something, I know this from personal experience and such with other girls. Just experience alone will help you a tremendous amount pinball and once your comfortable talking to girls, I think you'll be in good shape. If you ever need me, AIM Me

Double post ftw, skeRer get on aim ... lol

Originally Posted by SoA TrauMA

Most girls not 100% ignore you, they will give u a sign if they would like to continue the conversation or if you should just walk away. That's with MOST some girls think they are higher than others, don't bother with that type of relationship. It's better to get rejected than to regret not doing something, I know this from personal experience and such with other girls. Just experience alone will help you a tremendous amount pinball and once your comfortable talking to girls, I think you'll be in good shape. If you ever need me, AIM Me

thanks for your help dude, and i added u on aim already