Yeah I feel you dela, She's going out with that kid now today. I feel like complete sh.t and look at her as almost a whore now, 2 weeks after we broke up after a year and 2 months. At the same time I feel a weight lifted...I want to be with her. But, doesn't look like its gonna happen. Even though shes going out with this kid she still wants me to take her to the fair, im thinking f..k that or should I show her how amazing I am and show her what she really f..ked up on?...I'm debating and also she still claims that she loves me and wants to be with me just not at this moment in time. It seems so f..kkkkkked up...im upset like massively.

Originally Posted by SoA TrauMA

Yeah I feel you dela, She's going out with that kid now today. I feel like complete sh.t and look at her as almost a whore now, 2 weeks after we broke up after a year and 2 months. At the same time I feel a weight lifted...I want to be with her. But, doesn't look like its gonna happen. Even though shes going out with this kid she still wants me to take her to the fair, im thinking f.ck that or should I show her how amazing I am and show her what she really f.cked up on?...I'm debating and also she still claims that she loves me and wants to be with me just not at this moment in time. It seems so f.ckkkkkked up...im upset like massively.

Man, don't let that phase you. I'm not trying to give you the "there's other fish in the sea" speech, because that's some bullsh.t and it never helps anyways. I understand that you're upset and such, and attachment should definitely be normal after a year and then some. If you think you can be chill and yourself around her, and won't do anything weird or crazy, then go to the fair with her. Be yourself, do not be anything different than you. Would you really want her to want you back because you're acting like something you're not?

No, and thats what the dude she's dating did....and I can be like that and stuff around her. As long as she doesnt do anything with this dude, i'd prolly give her another opportunity, I love how the people who are the helpers need help too

How do you guys get over someone you truly love?


Thanks, i hope i get some nice suggestions. Btw, don't suggest the gym, I actually go to the gym 3 times a week which happens to be where I see the person I'm in love with.

Originally Posted by SoA TrauMA

No, and thats what the dude she's dating did....and I can be like that and stuff around her. As long as she doesnt do anything with this dude, i'd prolly give her another opportunity, I love how the people who are the helpers need help too

Don't be anyone but you. That's honestly, as long as you take it to heart, some of the best advice you can ever use. If you want to give her another opportunity and she wants to give it a chance, then go ahead. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. You can't pour a glass of milk if there's nothin' in the jug...

Originally Posted by BeeArePro Is GOD

How do you guys get over someone you truly love?


Thanks, i hope i get some nice suggestions. Btw, don't suggest the gym, I actually go to the gym 3 times a week which happens to be where I see the person I'm in love with.

Alright. This question is hard, but I'm going to at least TRY to give you some advice, even though I'm not sure that it'll work.

You have to replace the love with something else. Anything. Or find a way to express it. Write, paint, sing, play guitar, get into digital art, review movies or music for a local paper, ANYTHING that will get your mind off it for a little while. The other hobbies you could get into (cigarettes, alcohol, bud, etc.) are...well, they're just not good. Replacing an addiction to something that ails your heart with something that hurts your body and could hurt the rest of your life is foolish.

Yeah dela I get u if I have more questions ill just post then redirect u too this probably through AIM.


BeeArePro: If you truly love someone your probably not going to get over them to tell you the truth, you can try. You can attempt to move on. See what is out there and such like I want to do but I dont think is going to happen. Post more with maybe more info or something.

Originally Posted by iAMdela

Alright. This question is hard, but I'm going to at least TRY to give you some advice, even though I'm not sure that it'll work.

You have to replace the love with something else. Anything. Or find a way to express it. Write, paint, sing, play guitar, get into digital art, review movies or music for a local paper, ANYTHING that will get your mind off it for a little while. The other hobbies you could get into (cigarettes, alcohol, bud, etc.) are...well, they're just not good. Replacing an addiction to something that ails your heart with something that hurts your body and could hurt the rest of your life is foolish.

I should probably start drawing again, but I know that's not gonna take my mind away, since I go to the gym and see said person. As for doing drugs, I think I have an addictive personality, so I try to stay away from drugs.

Thanks man.

BeeArePro: If you truly love someone your probably not going to get over them to tell you the truth, you can try. You can attempt to move on. See what is out there and such like I want to do but I dont think is going to happen. Post more with maybe more info or something.

I know that time solves most of your problems, but I'm such an impatient person though. What would you like to know about my situation?

Here are some things.

This person doesn't know my name, nor do I know theirs.
This person goes to the same gym I go to. I could go to a different gym, but it's a longer drive and I hate driving.
Here's the kicker, I actually told this person I had a crush on them, and they were flat out shocked and asked me to "just get away."


[emo]....sigh, I'm so depressed right now.[/emo]

Originally Posted by BeeArePro Is GOD

I should probably start drawing again, but I know that's not gonna take my mind away, since I go to the gym and see said person. As for doing drugs, I think I have an addictive personality, so I try to stay away from drugs.

Thanks man.

Here are some things.

This person doesn't know my name, nor do I know theirs.
This person goes to the same gym I go to. I could go to a different gym, but it's a longer drive and I hate driving.
Here's the kicker, I actually told this person I had a crush on them, and they were flat out shocked and asked me to "just get away."


[emo]....sigh, I'm so depressed right now.[/emo]

Start drawing. Maybe it won't get the person off your mind, but you can at least use it as a way to get your feelings out. And good thing about staying away from the drugs, though some can be nearly harmless, addictive personalities do not do well with drugs. My friend has one, and he's having trouble, but that's neither here nor there.

I don't know what to tell you, Bee. I just don't. I don't like being helpless. I just don't know what to tell you.

Yeah Dela pretty much covered it...your in a hard situation there man..Very hard

Dela: Oh, and should I call my ex or try to befriend her etc. or just let her always be in contact with me? What should we talk about? Should I be the sweet guy like I used to be? or the asshole im turning into? :/

Originally Posted by SoA TrauMA

Yeah Dela pretty much covered it...your in a hard situation there man..Very hard

Dela: Oh, and should I call my ex or try to befriend her etc. or just let her always be in contact with me? What should we talk about? Should I be the sweet guy like I used to be? or the a.shole im turning into? :/

If she wants you to be friends, she'll end up coming to you. And as far as what to talk about...just shoot the sh.t. Don't bring up the relationship (but you can bring up memories of funny stuff that happened) because that will probably creep her out. Be you. Talk about what you want to talk about. And don't be a totally outward prick to her, but don't go completely passive and let her talk about her boyfriend to you all the time. Let her know that you don't want to talk about it (if you don't), but don't be a douche about it, you know? Be cordial, but don't let her run all over you.